
When a man finds a woman who supports him with her love, many of his fears and anxieties disappear.
His parents had given him little ground for recognizing his worth and capabilities, but now he is ready for the future.
If she loves me, I must be worth something.
With her, he can plan and face everything.
The girl who has found a man who loves her, is sensitive to her emotions and makes allowances for them, who appreciates her for what she is, even though she knows she is plain and homely, gains a sense of stability. When he entrusts himself to her, she realizes she is not only a sexual being,
but a person.
It is doubtful whether the human race,especially the male, would remain in reasonable mental and emotional health.
Men, for all their muscles and aggressiveness, need women to support them.
In fact, men need women more to give them the support and motivation to go on with life the long and winding road of life.
Women are better equipped to suffer and absorb emotional shock. They weep more, but in the end, more men commit suicide because they couldn't take the pressure.
Women produce babies from their relationship with men, look after the babies, but they also look after men, most of whom after all, are grown-up little boys - as any woman will tell you.
Women are healed by being stabilized. When a woman is loved, she cares about everything connected to her relationship and puts up with anything for the sake of love. She will trust her partner to the end of the earth and be in telepathic communication with him all day long not until she found out
that he did something to kill that trust....
She bears his losses and adversities as if they were her own and, in doing so, supports him. The effect of a real successful relationship do not come automatically. We all have to work hard for us to get that effectiveness.
We must double our effort to maintain that love in our relationship.
Men and women at the same time have to get alive to boost that feelings of love for each other.
EVERY relationship has a cycle.
In the beginning, you fell in love with your partner.
You anticipated their call, wanted their touch and liked their unconventional behaviour or habit.
Falling in love is easy.
It wasn't hard.
In fact, it is a completely natural and spontaneous experience.
It is a passive spontaneous experience!!!!!
You didn't have to DO anything.
That is why it's called "FALLING IN LOVE".
Falling in love..... humph..... some couples after a few years, the excitement (euphoria) of love fades. Slowly but surely, phone calls become a "BOTHER", " TOUCH " become less, seeing each other lessen, giving many reasons to avoid each other, etc....
You will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage
when you first fell in love and a much duller subsequent stage.
There is lack of communication and sharing.
Partners tend to take each other for granted.
All he/she can only do is finding fault in the other party they already have,
when he/she should be perfecting the relationship.
At this stage, you might be asking yourself.
"Did I find the right partner?"
And as you and your partner reflect on the "EUPHORIA" of the love you once had......
YOU MAY BEGIN TO DESIRE THAT EXPERIENCE WITH SOMEONE ELSE
YOU MAY BEGIN TO DESIRE THAT EXPERIENCE WITH SOMEONE ELSE
At this point, partners blaming each other for their unhappiness and look for someone new. Unfaithfulness is obvious. It is here when partners cheated. Having extra relationship.
But the answer to this problem DOES NOT lie outside that relationship. It lies WITHIN I'm not saying you cannot fall in love with someone. You could. YES but again you will only TEMPORARILY feel better. You'd be in the same situation a few years later. It will go on and on.
But the answer to this problem DOES NOT lie outside that relationship. It lies WITHIN I'm not saying you cannot fall in love with someone. You could. YES but again you will only TEMPORARILY feel better. You'd be in the same situation a few years later. It will go on and on.
BECAUSE
THE KEY TO A SUCCESS RELATIONSHIP IS NOT FINDING THE RIGHT PERSON BUT IT IS LEARNING TO LOVE THE PERSON YOU'VE FOUND AND CHOSEN.
SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. It'll NEVER just happen to us. We can't find "LASTING LOVE". We HAVE to "MAKE" it day in and day out. That's why we have the expression "THE LABOR OF LOVE". Because it takes TIME, EFFORT and ENERGY. And most importantly, it takes "WISDOM". You have to know WHAT TO DO to make a relationship or a marriage work.
Make no mistake about "LOVE". LOVE is NOT a "MYSTERY".
There are specific things you can do
(with or without) your partner to succeed in your love life.
Just as gravity for the universe. Why is there gravity here? Why not for Mars, Pluto Saturn and other planets? There are also laws for relationships.
Just as the right diet and exercise program makes you physically stronger, certain habits in your relationship WILL make it stronger. It's a direct cause and effect. If you know and apply the laws into your relationship, the result will be predictable.....
Loving someone is indeed a "DECISION" you made, not just a feeling.
"God sends someone to walk into your life and it is up to you to decide who you let walk away, who you let to stay and who you refuse to let go."
It is you who determine your destiny.
Just as gravity for the universe. Why is there gravity here? Why not for Mars, Pluto Saturn and other planets? There are also laws for relationships.
Just as the right diet and exercise program makes you physically stronger, certain habits in your relationship WILL make it stronger. It's a direct cause and effect. If you know and apply the laws into your relationship, the result will be predictable.....
Loving someone is indeed a "DECISION" you made, not just a feeling.
"God sends someone to walk into your life and it is up to you to decide who you let walk away, who you let to stay and who you refuse to let go."
It is you who determine your destiny.
Destiny is something
that was meant to be.
Or is going to be.
Dedicated to all of you out there.
Dedicated to all of you out there.
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